Losing weight—whether through sheer willpower, diet and exercise, or the latest fancy-ass pharmaceuticals—is a big f^%king deal for a lot of people. And when someone drops a significant amount of weight, people notice. That’s fine. Noticing is human. But what comes next?
Well, that’s where people f^%k it up.
We live in a culture that’s obsessed with weight. So much so that when someone loses a ton of it, it’s often treated like the most important thing about them. And that? That’s bullsh#t.
So, here’s a survival guide on how to talk to someone who has lost weight without making it weird, dehumanizing, or just plain annoying.
First: The F^%king Golden Rule—They Are More Than Their Body
Listen up, because this part is important as h#ll:
A person’s value is not measured in pounds lost.
I don’t care if they lost 20 lbs, 50 lbs, or a whole-ass second human being’s worth of weight—they are still the same f^%king person inside. If you hyper-focus on their weight loss, you’re basically telling them, “Hey, you weren’t really worth talking to before, but NOW you matter.”
And if you think that’s a compliment, it’s f^%king not.
So… Can You Say Anything? Or Just Shut the F^%k Up?
Good news! You can talk about it! You just have to do it like a decent human being. Here’s how:
✅ The Right Way to Acknowledge Weight Loss
If you notice someone has lost a noticeable amount of weight, a simple, neutral compliment is totally fine. Here’s how to do it without being a weirdo:
- “Hey, you look great!” (Nice. Clean. Leaves room for them to respond how they want.)
- “You seem really happy lately!” (Focus on their energy, not just their body.)
- “You’ve been crushing it lately—whatever you’re doing seems to be working for you!” (Acknowledges their effort without making it all about the scale.)
See? Easy. Human. Respectful.
And then—this is key—MOVE THE F^%K ON.
How to F^%k This Up Completely
Now that you know what to say, here are some absolute god-awful thingsyou should never say:
❌ “Oh my god, how much have you lost?!”
Buddy, this isn’t The Price is Right. They are not a f^%king contestant. Weight is personal. Asking for numbers like you’re checking stock prices is invasive and weird.
❌ “Wow, you look so much better now!”
And what the f^%k did they look like before? A goblin? An ogre? A bag of garbage? Don’t frame it like they were a disgusting mess before they lost weight.
❌ “Tell me EVERYTHING you did!”
Not everyone wants to give you their full TED Talk on their weight loss journey. If they want to share, they will. If not? Don’t demand their secrets like you’re trying to steal the Krabby Patty formula.
❌ “I barely recognized you!”
Oh, so they just fully disappeared from your memory before now? Not a great look.
❌ “Are you sick?”
Look, weight loss can sometimes be from illness. But unless you’re really close to this person and have a genuine reason to be concerned, don’t assume their weight loss is because of a tragic f^%king disease.
The Weird Social Minefield of Weight-Loss Drugs
In 2025, weight loss is basically a godd^%n science experiment. Between Ozempic, Wegovy, Mounjaro, and a whole f^%king pharmacy’s worth of new drugs, people are losing weight fast. And that has led to some extra-weird conversations.
If someone lost weight and you suspect it’s from a drug, do not f^%king ask them.
- Maybe they want to keep it private.
- Maybe they don’t want to have to justify why they took a medication.
- Maybe they worked their a$$ off and you just reduced their entire effort to a prescription.
If they bring it up? Cool. Let them talk about it. But don’t be the a$$hole who’s like, “So, is it Ozempic or just vibes?”
The F^%king Elephant in the Room: People Treat You Differently When You Lose Weight
Here’s some real talk: If you lose a sh#t-ton of weight, you will notice that some people suddenly start treating you way better. And that’s f^%ked up.
People will:
- Start complimenting you more than they ever did before.
- Suddenly be more interested in you socially or romantically.
- Act as if you just unlocked a secret VIP lounge of human respect.
If you’ve always been a confident bad-a$$, this might just be amusing to you. But if you struggled with body image before? It can be rage-inducingto realize how shallow people are.
So if you’re on the other side of this and you know someone who’s lost weight? Be mindful of how you treat them. If you suddenly started paying them more attention only after their weight changed, ask yourself why the f^%k you weren’t doing that before.
How to Actually Be Supportive
If you really care about someone who’s lost weight and want to be a good friend, here’s what you do instead of just talking about their body nonstop:
✔ Support Their Goals Beyond Weight Loss – Are they getting stronger? Feeling more energetic? Sleeping better? Talk about those things instead of just their pants size.
✔ Encourage Their Confidence – A simple, “You seem really happy and confident lately” goes a hell of a long way.
✔ Be Normal – They’re the same f^%king person they were before. Keep treating them like it.
Final Thought: Don’t Be a D!ck
Losing weight is a big deal for some people. But you know what’s also a big deal? Being a whole godd^%n person. So if you’re talking to someone who has lost weight, treat them like the full, complex, incredible human being they are—not just a f^%king number on a scale.
Because at the end of the day, weight loss might change a person’s body, but it shouldn’t be the only thing that changes how they’re treated.
FAQ (Because People Still Ask Dumb Sh#t)
Q: But what if they really seem proud of their weight loss? Can I talk about it then?
A: Yeah, of course! If someone brings it up and is excited, then absolutely engage with them on it. Just don’t make it the only thing you ever talk to them about.
Q: What if they gained weight back? Should I say something?
A: No, you absolute goblin. What the f^%k kind of question is that? If someone regains weight, they know. They don’t need you pointing it out like a condescending little weight-loss referee.
Q: But isn’t it a compliment to say someone looks better now?
A: No. It’s a subtle way of saying, “You looked like sh#t before.” Find a better way to say nice things.
Q: What if I lost weight and I want people to notice?
A: That’s totally fair! If you want people to acknowledge it, you can always bring it up in conversation. But if people don’t say anything, it’s probably because they’re trying not to be a d!ck.
Now Go Forth and Be a F^%king Decent Human
Weight loss is personal. It’s complicated. And people get weird as h#llabout it. But if you remember one thing from all of this, let it be this:
Be kind. Be supportive. And for the love of all that is holy, stop making people feel like their entire identity is tied to a godd^%n number.
And as always… don’t be a d!ck.