The Big A$$ Lie: Why Most People Are F^%king Miserable

We live in a world that makes deep, lasting joy seem like some magical unicorn S#*T—something only monks, billionaires, or people who do yoga on the beach at sunrise get to have. 

And that’s total f^%king nonsense. 

You don’t need to be rich.
You don’t need to be enlightened.
You don’t need to quit your job and go “find yourself” in the mountains. 

But if you feel like deep joy is always out of reach, it’s because you’ve been sold a cheap, fake version of happiness.

Most of what we call “happiness” is bulls#*t dopamine addiction—quick hits of pleasure that feel good in the moment but leave you empty as f^%k afterward: 

• Scrolling social media for hours, waiting for that tiny dopamine boost from a “like” 
• Buying S#*T you don’t need to feel important for five f^%king minutes 
• Chasing “success” without ever asking yourself if it actually f^%king matters to you 
• Drowning yourself in distractions—Netflix, video games, gossip—because sitting with your actual life feels like too much 

And guess what? 

It’s not f^%king working.

You wake up tired.
You feel like S#T.
And you wonder why the f^%k you’re not happy when you’re doing everything* you were told would make you happy. 

That’s because real joy doesn’t work like that.

It’s not about stacking up temporary highs.
It’s about building a life that actually feels f^%king good to live.

And if you’re ready to stop chasing fake A$$ happiness and start building real, deep joy, let’s f^%king go. 

What the F^%K Is Deep Joy, and Why Don’t You Have It?

Let’s make one thing clear: 

Deep joy is not the same as “being happy” all the time.

Happiness is an emotion. It comes and goes. 

Deep joy is a foundation.

It’s knowing, deep in your bones, that your life actually f^%king matters—even when things aren’t perfect. 

• It’s what makes you feel steady when life throws S#*T at you.
• It’s what makes pain and stress easier to handle.
• It’s what makes life feel f^%king worth it.

And if you don’t have it, it’s probably because you’re looking in the wrong f^%king places.

So let’s break this S#*T down: 

The Three F^%king Pillars of Deep Joy

There are three non-negotiable ingredients to real, lasting joy. 

Miss one, and you’re gonna feel like S#T, even if everything looks* good on the surface. 

1. Meaning: You Need to Give a S#*T About Something Bigger Than Yourself

Most people feel empty because they’re spending their lives on meaningless S#*T.

• Working a job they hate just to buy more crap 
• Chasing status instead of purpose 
• Wasting time on stuff they don’t actually care about 

You can have all the money, success, and validation in the world and still feel like a hollowed-out A$$hole if you don’t have a reason to get up in the morning.

Now, don’t get this twisted: 

• Meaning isn’t about some grand, world-changing mission.
• You don’t have to “change the world.”
• You just have to do S#T that actually f^%king matters to you*.

Ask yourself: What makes you feel alive? What makes you feel like you’re actually f^%king contributing to the world in a way that matters?

(We’ll go deeper on this in Why Purpose Is the Ultimate F^%king Cheat Code for Happiness, article coming soon).

2. Presence: Stop Distracting Yourself from Your Own F^%king Life

If you’re never present in your own life, you’re never gonna feel deep joy. 

• If you’re always on your phone, you’re not actually living.
• If you’re always numbing out with Netflix, booze, or endless distractions, you’re avoiding the life you should be f^%king enjoying.
• If you can’t even sit in silence without reaching for some kind of stimulus, your brain is f^%ked.

Deep joy happens when you actually f^%king experience your life.

(If you need a first step, start with Gratitude Is the F^%king Gateway Drug to Joy, article coming soon).

3. Connection: You’re Not Meant to Do This S#*T Alone

Loneliness is a f^%king joy-killer.

• You could have all the money in the world, but if you have no one to share it with, it won’t mean S#*T. 
• You could have the perfect career, but if you have zero deep relationships, you’ll still feel empty as f^%k. 
• You could have every material thing you ever wanted, but without love, support, and human connection, it’ll never feel like enough. 

The happiest people on earth aren’t the richest or most successful—they’re the ones with deep, meaningful relationships.

(If you’re struggling with this, check out How to Build Real, F^%king Meaningful Relationships, article coming soon).

How to Start Building Real F^%king Joy—TODAY

If you want deep joy, here’s where you f^%king start: 

Figure out what actually f^%king matters to you—not what society says should matter. 

Quit waiting for joy to “happen”—it’s not magic, it’s a f^%king choice. 

Put your f^%king phone down and actually live your life. 

Give a S#*T about people. Helping others is a f^%king shortcut to joy. 

Stop doing S#*T that drains your soul. If it doesn’t align with your values, let that S#*T go. 

(First step? Start with Gratitude Is the F^%king Gateway Drug to Joy, article coming soon).

FAQ: F^%king Asked Questions

“What if I’m too depressed to feel joy?”
Start small. One tiny good thing at a time.

“Isn’t joy just brain chemistry?”
Yes, and you can f^%king rewire it. 

“Does this mean I have to be toxically positive?”
H#LL NO. Feel your S#*T. Just don’t let it define you. 

“What’s one thing I can do right now?”
Gratitude. (Seriously). 

Don’t Be a D!CK—Find Your F^%king Joy

Life is too short to spend it miserable.

Deep joy is f^%king real. And it’s f^%king yours if you want it.

Now go f^%king get it.